Why Did Kermit Fall for Miss Piggy?
Take a look
at Miss Piggy from the muppets. She was always very outgoing and confident, but
more importantly she had amazing self-esteem. She thought and firmly believed
that she was stunningly beautiful and she displayed it in a very dramatic way.
Everyone fell for it, everyone found her to be glamourous. What's more, Kermit
the frog even went and fell in love with her! But let's look at the truth of
the matter - she was a pig!
Now she was
no curvaceous Jessica Rabbit from the film "Who framed Roger Rabbit"
who was a text book stunner! Miss Piggy certainly did not have the qualities of
your typical super-model, I would even put my neck on the line and say that she
was a bit chunky.
Developing
self-esteem and oozing confidence can and does distinctly increase your ability
to be irresistably attractive. It can and very often does create an illusion or
aura of value, worth and desirability.
Why do we
find a person with high self-esteem to be attractive? What is it about them
that draws our attention and admiration? Is it the mystique? Is it an aura?
That certain "je ne sais quoi?"
Look at
what is happening here; a person who exhibits strong self-esteem is telling the
world they value themselves. After all, the meaning of "self-esteem"
is the esteem (value) of the self. It is the estimation of worth that you are
giving to yourself. So when a person recognises their own self-worth and
exhibits that to the rest of us, we start to think that they know something
that we don't! In other words, they think they are special and have value.
Likewise
when someone shows the world that they have low self-esteem, we tend to believe
and think that if they do not think very highly of themselves, then why should
we be impressed or respectful of them? We certainly don't usually allow
ourselves to be dazzled by them.
In both
cases, we simply go along with the estimation that what the person has signaled
to us is valid. We tend to just believe the verdict that the person has put
upon themself.
So why is
that attractive? We, as humans, are naturally attracted to that which has been
deemed valuable. We also tend to want to be a part of a larger group. We often
follow the lead, join groups, and go along with the majority opinion - just to
be part of the group.
High
self-esteem can also create an illusion of attractiveness, or competence, even
when it is not necessarily there. It is possible for us to be fooled. After
all, attractiveness is a subjective attribute.
Self-esteem is the way that you feel about yourself, self-confidence is the way you feel about your abilities. Both can enhance your ability to attract partners, pay-rises, friends, sales, success, achievement and lots more. I think it would be valuable to learn how to increase your own self-esteem today. Hey, if it gets Miss Piggy pulling at someones (some-frogs) heart strings, it can do the same for you.